(Rest in peace,
Cinderella gets a lot of flak as a story about a passive female who yearns to be rescued from her sad situation by a man of wealth and privilege. But that's a very contemporary interpretation of a very ancient tale - one not based on an accurate reading of the story.
In every version I've heard or read, Cinderella wants to go to the ball just to see it, like going to a movie. It is her stepsisters who ridicule her with taunts about marrying the prince, who they vainly believe one of them will win. They are unsatisfied with what they have while Cinderella, who has so little, resigns herself to her position in obedience to the words of her dead mother.
That's why what some pop psychologist labeled "the Cinderella complex" should by rights be called "the stepsister complex." Cinderella takes care of herself without any help from men, including her father who is cowed by his new wife. The prince is not her rescuer but her reward for taking care of others without complaint.